There’s this quiet moment in grief that no one really talks about.
It comes months, or even years, after the funeral, the flowers, the check-ins.
It’s when everyone else seems to have picked up their lives again…and you’re still learning how to breathe without falling apart.
It’s not loud.
It’s not dramatic.
But it’s real.
And it’s lonely.
The World Moves On. You’re Still Standing in the Rubble.
At first, people texted.
They brought food.
They asked how I was.
But slowly, the world got louder again…for them.
Their timelines shifted. Their lives continued.
And I was still here, remembering the sound of his voice like it was yesterday.
Still holding grief while juggling carpool.
Still crying while doing laundry.
Still wondering how everyone just… adjusted.
I Started Wondering…
• Am I grieving too long?
• Am I supposed to be over this by now?
• Do they think I’m stuck?
But here’s the truth I’ve had to speak over myself again and again:
You’re not behind. You’re grieving. And grief has no schedule.
What Helped Me When the Loneliness Got Loud
• Reaching for the grief communities, not waiting for them to find me
(Forums, blogs, and honest spaces like this one)
• Letting go of the timeline I never agreed to
• Creating my own rituals of remembrance
(Lighting candles, journaling letters, listening to “our songs”)
• Saying his name—even when no one else does anymore
If You’re Still Grieving Long After They’ve Stopped Asking
You are not crazy.
You are not dramatic.
You are not broken.
You’re just still carrying a love that hasn’t gone anywhere.
Even if they’ve moved on from your loss, you’re still living inside of it.
That doesn’t make you weak.
That makes you human.
You Deserve Space, Even Now
Grief doesn’t expire.
It evolves.
And it needs room to breathe, on month 1, year 2, and year 10.
You’re not too much.
You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re just doing what it takes to survive something unimaginable.
And you’re allowed to keep healing, even if the rest of the world has forgotten what you’re carrying.
With deep care and no timeline attached,
La 💙
